The additional pressure when your client also calls you Mommy

Today on my 51st Birthday another special event happened. Today my daughter purchased her first house. I honestly can't remember how long ago she even began the house search. I think it was last fall. There was a contract, an inspection, and then the termination. When you're the broker with two decades of experience and you let your own child make an offer on the wrong house it makes you think about every other young first time home buyer in an entirely new light. 

And then there were those late night phone calls where she said, "this isn't a broker question, it's a mommy question".  It's not often that buyers are asking me to look at paint samples and carpet samples. I had to turn on the Mommy role sometimes and the broker role sometimes. 

It was a wonderful, stressful and rewarding experience. Even after 24 years in this business having my "little girl" as a client was a learning experience. It was also amazing to give her the keys to her new house today. Now I have to get busy in the Mommy role again with helping her get moved and settled. 

After the closing there was my birthday dinner where we also celebrated  Abigail's closing. Even a past client, that was another sweet and adorable first time home buyer and has become friends with my daughter came to dinner with us. There was great food and lots of laughter.

Then we came home and there was birthday cake from Ryal's Bakery.  

Yes, it really was an amazing day. 

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Comment balloon 66 commentsTammy Lankford, • March 17 2016 08:06PM

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Congratulations "Mom" and to Abi and Michael on their new home! What a rewarding experience for all of you!

Jeff

Posted by Jeff Dowler, The Southern California Relocation Dude - Carlsbad (Solutions Real Estate ) almost 2 years ago

Well, Congratulations to Abigail and her first home...she was fortunate to have such a wonderful Broker/Mom at her side!

Posted by Lisa Von Domek, ....Experience Isn't Expensive.... It's Priceless! (Lisa Von Domek & Associates LLC Team) almost 2 years ago

AS parents we should help our children to get started or they will live with us. I do not remember getting help from our parents. It was slightly easier then.

 

Posted by Sam Shueh, mba, cdpe, reopro, pe ( (408) 425-1601) almost 2 years ago

Oh not my daughter Sam Shueh she moved out 15 days after her 18th birthday to go to college and never moved back home.  She has been a very independent person since she was about 5

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) almost 2 years ago

Congratulations. 

Tell them they are lucky. Th photo looks like a $1.2M home SF Bay area.  3000 sf lot...

 

Posted by Sam Shueh, mba, cdpe, reopro, pe ( (408) 425-1601) almost 2 years ago

Jeff Dowler CRS it really was

Lisa Von Domek the serious stress was lack of inventory in her price point.  Ugh. She bought a FSBO, so there was a lot of work.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) almost 2 years ago

Tammy, that is awesome that you sold your daughter a house, congratulations.

Posted by Sybil Campbell, REALTOR® ABR, SFR, SRES Williamsburg, Virginia (Long and Foster REALTORS® 5234 Monticello Ave Williamsburg, Virginia) almost 2 years ago

Congratulations Abi and Michael.  Glad you got through it and got a great house.

Posted by Jerrill and Nancy Ewing, Builder - Associate Broker (N & J Lake Properties, LLC) almost 2 years ago

Good morning Tammy. Happy belated birthday, may this year bring you continued joy and good health. Congratulations to your daughter as well, the beginning of many memories.

Posted by Joe Petrowsky, Your Mortgage Consultant for Life (Mortgage Consultant, Right Trac Financial Group, Inc. NMLS # 2709) over 1 year ago

Exciting news for both you and your daughter.....great story Tammy.

Posted by Roger D. Mucci, Lets shake things up at your home today! (Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092) over 1 year ago

Congratulations to you and your daughter. Thank you for sharing.

Posted by Gita Bantwal, REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel (RE/MAX Centre Realtors) over 1 year ago

What a truly special day, Tammy.  Yes, that must be an interesting dual role.

Posted by Women of Westchester Working Together, Women helping Women get ahead (Women of Westchester Working Together) over 1 year ago

Good morning Tammy. I saw your post on Facebook yesterday and knew it was a very spcial day on so many levels. Congratulations.

Posted by Sheila Anderson, The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133 (Referral Group Incorporated) over 1 year ago

Knowing - from experience and as her mom - that she made an offer on the wrong house, has got to be tough Tammy! I can only imagine!

Congratulations to your daughter. And Happy Birthday again to you.

Posted by Andrea Bedard, M.A.; REALTOR® Silver Spring, MD and beyond (Thompson Company, REALTORS®) over 1 year ago

Did something similar a few years ago. Had some money in a CD doing nothing for years and then put it to work and bought a home for one of mine. This is the second time I have done this...

Posted by Richie Alan Naggar, agent & author (people first...then business Ran Right Realty ) over 1 year ago

I look forward to the day I can help either of my children buy a home.  At this point, and their ages (30 and 27) there doesn't seem to be much interest!

Posted by Margaret Goss, Chicago's North Shore & Winnetka Real Estate (Baird & Warner Real Estate) over 1 year ago

Great story.  I enjoyed reading that and the different roles you had to take to get that done for your daughter.  

Posted by Wayne Golliday (Mobile Home Sales of Florida LLC) over 1 year ago

Congratulations on both events. I have to admit that I really thought you were much younger, and helping your daughter buy her first home has to be pretty emotional. Having a smart realtor for a mom means that she probably bought a great envestment that will pay off for the rest of her life.

Posted by Larry Brewer - Benchmark Realty llc (Benchmark Realty LLc) over 1 year ago

How special ! ! Congrats to Abigail and Happy Birthday to you .... she surely looks like you ! 

You must be so proud to see her make such a milestone. 

Posted by Michele Connors, Your Eastern North Carolina Realtor (The Overton Group, LLC Pitt & Carteret County) over 1 year ago

What a wonderful story, and a wonderful birthday gift.

Posted by Alan May, Helping you find your way home. (Coldwell Banker Residential) over 1 year ago

Tammy, happy birthday!  And now you really know how to treat your cients like family!  Sounds like it was a wonderful transaction for all of you.

Posted by Patricia Kennedy, Home in the Capital (RLAH Real Estate) over 1 year ago

Big Smiles here in San Jose reading this. Truly an Amazing day. Life is good. 

Posted by Kathleen Daniels, San Jose Homes for Sale - Probate Broker (KD Realty - 408.972.1822) over 1 year ago

Congrats!!!  A very special day you will remember forever. 

Posted by Bruce Brockmeier, Coached By Crouch (Internet Marketing Consultant to REALTORS®) over 1 year ago

That's something I really look forward to with my girls. Getting to help them with such big life decisions is all a part of being a parent even if I'm a broker or not. 

Posted by Nicole Doty - Gilbert Real Estate Expert, Broker/Owner of Zion Realty ZionRealtyAZ.com (Zion Realty) over 1 year ago

Sybil Campbell it was a very unique buyer's agent experience for sure

Nancy- the struggle was real. LOL

Joe Petrowsky she face-timed me this morning and her excitement is unreal

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 1 year ago

Roger D. Mucci it was a wonderful, sharing and bonding experience.  And yesterday at the closing when the attorney was explaining PMI and Abgail chimmed in about understanding if values increased before the 7 year period or if she paid extra payments...  the attorney said: "okay, you grew up in real estate, you know this"  It was a wonderful feeling that even though real estate was not her path... she learned along the way.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 1 year ago

Gita Bantwal I'm so very proud of her.

Women of Westchester Working Together  Debbie- it was very interesting.

Sheila Anderson that it was.  We should have taken photos at dinner, but it's okay, we put our phones away and just have the memories.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 1 year ago

Andrea Bedard it was a lipstick on pig house.  It looked good until the inspector did his thing.  Then not so much. Fortunately their EMD was protected as it was in the inspection period, but it was still a hard pill to swallow that we paid for the inspection, but it worked out.  She got a deal on another house.

Richie Alan Naggar oh she's buying it, I was just the mom and broker.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 1 year ago

Margaret Goss Abigail is just 27.  I'm very proud she made this decision at her age.

Wayne Golliday she would literally say "this is a mommy question" when she wanted to know my opinion about some things.  Kitchens and closets being at the top of the list.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 1 year ago

Larry Brewer - Benchmark Realty llc wow, nice compliment Larry.  And I get it naturally from both sides, my mom and my dad don't look their age at all.  And yes, she really did get a deal. She paid 13,000 less than a similar house right next door just a few months ago.

Michele Connors she's a nice blend of me and her father. Thankfully she got a few more inches from him and won't need that step stool in the kitchen. LOL   And yes, a very proud mama moment.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 1 year ago

Alan May I'll have to post a photo later as it's not with me, but the icing on the cake when my birthday gift was a coffee mug that said OMG my mom was right about everything. LOL

Patricia Kennedy actually I think I've always done that, but this felt like high pressure. And very rewarding.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 1 year ago

Kathleen Daniels the very best her her giddy call this morning about the "miscommunication" with the carpet guy.  She's getting for what she thought was the price for two rooms and the hallway all but one bedroom re-carpeted.  She's over the moon.

Bruce Brockmeier it seemed awesome to get to close on my birthday.

Nicole Doty - Gilbert Real Estate Expert knowing I had the expertise to get her a great deal was wonderful though.

 

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 1 year ago

Best wishes go out on both home fronts!  Your birthday and your baby girl's new digs!  

Posted by Carla Muss-Jacobs, Principal Broker (503) 810-7192, Buyer Focused ~ Buyer Results (BuyersAgentPortland.com | Portland Metro Exclusive Buyers Agent | 100% Buyer Representation ~ 100% of the Time) over 1 year ago

Yes, that does sound like the best birth DAY ever. Congratulations on being the mother of a new homeowner.

Posted by Jane Peters, Connecting you to the L.A. real estate market (Home Jane Realty) over 1 year ago

Tammy Lankford : Great job!

Your daughter looks totally happy with her new home purchase.

Cheers!

Milan

Posted by What Not To Renovate - Milan B., We provide tips & trends on home renos & designs over 1 year ago

Tammy Lankford first all Happy Belated Birthday - and what a birthday it was this year - WOW!  I can only imagine switching back and forth between broker and mommy hat - on a dime was interesting! Congrats to your lovely daughter on her first home. And congrats to the Broker/Mommy too!  All the best this next year

Posted by Anna Banana Kruchten CRS,CRB, Arizona's Top Banana of Real Estate! (Phoenix Property Shoppe) over 1 year ago

Great story! Congratulations to your daughter. 

Posted by Green Forest Properties, Your Local Golden, CO Real Estate Professional over 1 year ago

Thank you for sharing your special day with us ..... Your daughters purchase of a home and your birthday awesome so happy for you guys..... Enjoy your day 

Posted by Laura Filip RE/MAX UTOPIA | 903-271-4978, Your locally owned RE/MAX OFFICE (RE/MAX UTOPIA , Serving all of Texoma ) over 1 year ago

I bought my first home with an agent in the family.  He was helpful, but I wish he had educated me a little more along the way.  

Posted by Gene Riemenschneider, Turning Houses into Homes (Home Point Real Estate) over 1 year ago

Well HAPPY BIRTHDAY!  

Posted by Sussie Sutton, UTR TEXAS Realtors - Rep for buyers and sellers. (UTR Texas Realtors) over 1 year ago

Happy Birthday Tammy! What a way to celebrate your birthday! Congratulations to Abagail too!

Posted by Evelyn Johnston, The People You Know, Like and Trust! (Friends & Neighbors Real Estate) over 1 year ago

Tammy Lankford I come across this a lot. Specially my clients are young couples - and are away from India, they treat me almost as their guardian in this country.

It's a huge respect - at the same time, a feeling of that extra responsibility - I don't want anything to go wrong with this people!

Love it - however, with that unknown fear. I am sure you know how it feels...

Posted by Praful Thakkar, Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale (eXp Realty) over 1 year ago

I've had 3 kids buy their first home in the last 18 months. I inspected each of them and it was pretty cool. 

Posted by Scott Seaton Jr. Bourbonnais Kankakee IL Home Inspector, The Home Inspector With a Heart! (SLS Home Inspections-Bradley Bourbonnais Kankakee Manteno) over 1 year ago

Thanks for sharing that lovely story. Plus a belated happy birthday to you and congrats to your daughter on her first house.

I've sold my son two condos. It's: "Dad, just do what you think is right."

Posted by Lloyd Binen, Silicon Valley Realtor since 1976; 408-373-4411 (Certified Realty Services) over 1 year ago

It doesn't appear that the faces in that picture could look any happier! Congratulations to everyone and you will surely have many happy memories created from their first home!

Posted by Craig Cooper, Creating-Preserving-Growing Wealth in Real Estate (Chase International Real Estate) over 1 year ago

What a wonderful day! Congratulations to your daughter on her new home, and a Happy Birthday wish to you!

Posted by Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat (Grand Lux Realty, 914-419-0270, kat@thehousekat.com) over 1 year ago

Happy Birthday, and thanks for sharing this terrific story with us.

Posted by Jeanne Dufort, Madison and Lake Oconee GA (Coldwell Banker Lake Country) over 1 year ago

Congratulations to Abigail on her first home purchase! And happy birthday to you Tammy. I know this felt like a great gift to you helping our little girl become a home owners.

Posted by Nina Hollander, Your Charlotte/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Area Realtor (RE/MAX Executive | Charlotte, NC) over 1 year ago

A belated Happy Birthday to you.  I can't have the experience of my child, but have had the pleasure of my nephews/kids using me for their help and it does make one have to use extra caution on both sides.

Posted by Ed Silva, Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally (RE/MAX Professionals, CT 203-206-0754 ) over 1 year ago

Hi Tammy Lankford love your story.  A very special househunting experience!

Posted by Joy Bender, Who You Hire Matters (Pacific Sotheby's) over 1 year ago

Tammy,

 Happy Birthday and congrats on your baby buying her new home! Yep is is really a special day! I know you have enjoyed it!

Posted by Yolanda Cordova-Gilbert, Sitterle Homes (Sitterle Homes) over 1 year ago

Abigal is so beautiful, she's glowing, Tammy. And you know what? Your hair looks pretty terrific, too. Congratulations on getting your baby girl a new home.

Posted by Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Real Estate Agent, Top 1% of Lyon Agents, Put 40 years of experience to work for you (Lyon Real Estate) over 1 year ago

Tammy, what a wonderful way to spend a birthday.  Congratulations to Abigail.  A belated happy birthday to a fellow Pices!

Posted by Sharon Parisi, Dallas Homes (United Real Estate Dallas ) over 1 year ago

Happy belated Birthday!

Posted by Dale Poll (Dale Poll Photography) over 1 year ago

Thanks Carla Muss-Jacobs, Principal Broker/Owner , I'm really happy it's just a few miles from me.  And she is too.  I'm going over to run the vacuum over the new carpet before the movers bring boxes and furniture tomorrow and don't want to wait for her to vacuum. 

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 1 year ago

Jane Peters it was quite the adventure helping her find the right house.

What Not To Renovate - Milan B. she's very excited.

Anna Banana Kruchten staying on the right side of fair housing lines should been a piece of cake for me after that deal. I had to carefully help her choose by being the broker and only providing her with the places to get the information to make her decision. Sometimes when she would say "I want to see this house" I would want to scream, no you can't live there. But I had on the broker hat.  Now that the deal is done I can tell her I think she did a great job in picking her new place to live.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 1 year ago

Green Forest Properties thanks so much.

Laura Filip RE/MAX UTOPIA | 903-271-4978 it was a wonderful experience

Gene Riemenschneider I started dragging her to this real estate office just after her 4th birthday.  She got the education long before now. But your words resonate with me just the same to do a great job educating young first time home buyers. 

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 1 year ago

Thanks Sussie Sutton 

Evelyn Johnston it was a great way to celebrate

Praful Thakkar I can certainly relate to what you go through with that extra feeling of responsibility. 

Scott Seaton Jr. Bourbonnais Kankakee IL Home Inspector I would want to take my inspector dad with me in the looking process.

 

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 1 year ago

Lloyd Binen my daughter put a great deal of negotiating trust in me, but she was picking the house.

Craig Cooper I am looking forward to many family gatherings there.

Kat Palmiotti thanks it was a fun day.

Jeanne Dufort thanks.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 1 year ago

Nina Hollander it was an amazing and stressful experience

Ed Silva I also have a cousin pending who just got his clear to close.

Joy Bender it was a great experience.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 1 year ago

Yolanda Cordova-Gilbert yes it was a fantastic day

Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Real Estate Agent, Top 1% of Lyon Agents thanks, I'm actually growing it out to donate.

Thanks Sharon Parisi 

Thank you Dale Poll 

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 1 year ago

Gee, yet another time I am late with congrats. Ouch...

But better late, as we were told, so... Belated Happy Birthday, mom and broker...

 

Posted by Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL, Buy Daytona condos for heavenly good prices (Daytona Condo Realty, 386-405-4408) over 1 year ago

Thanks Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL and it's okay, It just so happens I celebrate the second half of March and Donald the first half.  Tomorrow is daughter moving day.  Sure am glad I have two appointments, I'll just have to pop in and help in between those two appointments.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) over 1 year ago

Congrats to you both and I hope to do the same for my daughter one day !

Posted by Ava Anderson, Selling Atlanta from A-Z! (A-Z Atlanta Realty ) over 1 year ago

Congratulations to you and your daughter. It is a great experience.

Posted by John Wiley, Lee County, FL Real Estate GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA (Jones & Co. Realty) over 1 year ago

Hello Tammy ...

I can't believe I missed your birthday and I may have seen birthday wishes around FB and didn't get around to wishing you a happy BD.

"Happy Birthday" 

Very exciting and congrats on your daughter purchasing her first home and your post has been featured to the group:

HAPPY AT ACTIVERAIN

Posted by Robert Vegas Bob Swetz, Las Vegas Henderson Homes for Sale (Realty ONE Group) over 1 year ago

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